Opportunities present themselves all the time in life, even if we do not see them. Sometimes there’s so many things we could choose to do and they happen to appear all at once. So how do we choose what to do and what to let go?
Maybe you’ve been asked to attend two different gatherings by two friend groups on the same night or you only have enough money in your weekly budget to either see a movie or go to a sporting match. How do we decide what matters most?
I think it comes down to how we look at each opportunity. In the case of choosing a friend group to hang out with a lot of factors could come into play – like your closeness, the time you last saw them, the enjoyment you will get from hanging out with each respective group or maybe the opportunities to better yourself by hanging with a particular group.
Your decision can be made based on a lot of things, it mostly just depends on what you value. What are the metrics you choose to evaluate where you should spend your time? No person is the same as the next in their approach, and that’s exactly how it should be. We’re all at different stages of life and we all need different things, here and now.
For me personally, I’m at a stage of growth where I am exploring and I am empowered by meeting new people and hearing their stories. I’m trying to expand myself and open my perspectives up to understand views I never considered before and I am lucky I have the opportunities to do that.
I am aware that as time passes some people will come and others will go, but what will stay are my values and lessons learned. I want to be a better friend, a better brother, a better son – and it takes some sacrifices to do that and as I continue to mature more I’m realising what to place my value in.
I will hang with friends that challenge to me to better myself and I will not necessarily go the most comfortable gatherings – I will go to the ones that I am most afraid of. Where I may only know 1 or 2 people, but those couple of friends will be the reason why I meet so many more.
So my priorities are based more on learning experiences, whereas others may place it on things like building respect and earning loyalty. That’s not to say you can’t do both with the same opportunity, but often when deciding between two things one metric has to outweigh the other and you need to choose which one you value more.
As I said before it’s all dependent on your stage of life and growth. Your metrics now will not necessarily be your metrics in the future. So, do what feels right and remember how a situation made you feel. If it was better than expected, do it again – if not, don’t be afraid to alter your metric.
Juggle your priorities well with good values and metrics.
~ Adam, 2019